He needs to feel like he is “conquering,” like he is significant, like he is having an impact on the world, like his is pursuing his mission in life.Women are typically more driven by the desire to connect and build interpersonal relationships.When we met, I didn’t have much feeling for her either way.She was good and all, but I didn’t really see a future.Being cheated on is one of the most painful, shattering experiences, one that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. You feel betrayed, your trust is destroyed, your self-esteem is ravaged, and you can’t stop questioning what you did wrong and what signs you must have missed.
So in your situation, I would recommend the same thing: A frank, to-the-point conversation – it’s not working anymore, I don’t see it getting better, you’re great, but I want to break up. When a woman cheats, it’s usually because her emotional needs are no longer being met—maybe she no longer feels seen or cared for or understood.When a man cheats, it is most often because he feels like a loser in the relationship.Let’s be exclusive and see where it goes.” So I committed myself into an exclusive relationship that I wasn’t 100% into. It wasn’t readily apparent at first, but after about 3 months I felt like I was putting in all the energy to try and keep the relationship together.I felt as though I didn’t really know what she was thinking or how she was feeling – it was almost like I was dating someone I didn’t really even know.If I had looked at the relationship itself clearly, I would have seen that it was a mediocre relationship that had some good moments at the beginning, but there was no future.Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to be that honest with myself.The truth is, that was the best way she could have possibly dumped me. And I lacked the perspective back then to see that regardless of what my ex was like during our relationship, it meant nothing about me or who I was as a person (although it may have meant something about my approach…) :) My point in all of this is that her breaking up with me was painful, but it lead me to learn some valuable lessons.Dragging out the relationship any longer would have done neither of us any good.He feels like he is constantly disappointing his woman and nothing he does is good enough.He may feel like she no longer desires him sexually, like she doesn’t appreciate him, like she’s disappointed in him, like she isn’t impressed by him.