When my daughter is out with friends, we text message back and forth frequently.
At night, I or another parent goes but usually to a different movie or shop while they are in the movie, but close by.I originally told her that she could not date until she was 16, but you give them an inch and they want the whole mile, right?Now she wants to be able to go to the movies with a boy that she likes.My guess is it depends on the child versus the age. For the moment I know who the kids are, but I too was a teen so I know anything can change.That said - I only have one so I don't have the younger ones saying "but she got to at 14". The main thing I do is try to limit the amount of time she is there and the frequency.When dating is delay until 16, the likelihood of her having sex is decreased significantly.When dating is not permitted until 17, the liklihood of her having sex is much less, I think only 20 percent if I remember correctly. I honestly think that if she wants to date that badly, she will find a way. She is probably not like this, and I don't mean to sound rude or anything, just that if any child really wants to do something, they will usually find a way. Have you talked with her honestly about what you and your husband's concerns are?Let him be the daddy, and lay down those kinds of rules.I have also always believed that maturity and sense of responsibility means far more than age.Personally, I think 16 is a good age to allow dating but with some rules set in stone.I work with pregnant kids in our local school district. Three got pregnant while eating off campus lunch during the school day, three got pregnant at the boy's house (two while parents were home), one got pregnant at a friends, and one got pregnant on a date.