A woman who grew up in eastern Sydney may need to marry a man on a reasonable income if she is to live near where she grew up, and be able to take time off work to raise her kids," says James.In this respect, he argues Sydney has become very much like New York and London: There are lots of accomplished, lonely people here."Many people's lives seem largely work and career-focused and there's very little time for anything else; dating, travel, arts, culture, sport, seeking some enlightenment, happiness," says James.
Birger says this can lead to women being more sexually objectified, while men “play the field.” Another factor that makes dating difficult is that college-educated women today are less likely than ever before to marry men with less education than them, research suggests.So much so, that many decent women just give up on dating altogether, making the dating pool even smaller for less confident guys."Still, James says many guys do struggle to attract women in Sydney for a variety of reasons.(iii) "Many desirable guys new to Sydney report seeing many attractive women by day, but have no luck ever finding where they go at night.It seems the private party scene is big and if you can't break into it, it can be tough meeting great girls in bars.If you're not skilled or bold enough to try to talk to girls during the day it can be a really difficult city," says James.(iv) "Kings Cross sucks in a huge percentage of the city's most attractive women at night, leaving far less for other places.So, if the Cross is not your style, you'd think hot girls don't go to bars much."(v) "The extremely high cost of living and spectacular property prices understandably can make some women fairly cautious in their choice of mate.Birger says the picture gets worse with age, because as people get older and get married, the ratio of available women to men gets even more skewed.For example, if you start out with a pool of 140 women and 100 men (all of whom are straight and monogamous), and half the women get married, the ratio of single women to single men rises from 1.4:1 to more than 2:1.Having returned once again to the dating trenches, I've been surprised by just how many attractive women there are in Sydney and how few of them want to have sex with me.This is largely my fault, seeing as I only go out once a fortnight to my local RSL, then proceed to drink the bar dry of Jameson; so I'm not always the most attractive prospect."And we're now confusing ourselves further by becoming increasingly more status and money oriented like Americans," he says. And if you live in Adelaide and dig hot bogan chicks, you've got it made. On the flip side, he says it's a brutal environment for women over 25."In Sydney (and Adelaide) you regularly see large groups of attractive women with no guys whatsoever.His list of best Australian cities for the single guy looks like this:1. This would be rare in Melbourne and Brisbane and unheard of in Perth and Canberra," says James."Even the most desirable women can really struggle here with the 'man drought'.