Instead of waiting to hear what your date suggests, have a couple ideas in mind before you actually start planning with him or her.
(Others of you who are IRL boning, let us know in the comments! ) And they loved each other like crazy, and made a tiny corner of the jerk universe a happier place. Our nation is going through terrible trials, and we've all been eyeing the Canadian border. We are marching to fascism quickly, and not even under a smart man, but a hideously stupid one. And all we can do is stick together and shout, FUCK NO, WE WILL NOT HAVE IT. The number of people reading Wonkette has dropped precipitously (long story, too boring, Facebook algorithm change), but there are several hundred thousand of you left, who come and join us every month, and we've seen no change in what matters. While you can’t change your personality on an ongoing basis, you can certainly push your shy personality to the limit for 60 minutes and initiate lots of good conversation topics. Overt flirting can actually be a turnoff for some, but a little playful flirting can go a long way.Shy people often get too stuck in their heads to relax and let their flirting come out.Off the bat, I’m thinking of the Maroon 5 song, “Unkiss Me.” The point of that song is that its singer, Adam Levine, wants to go back in time and avoid getting hurt.But with shy men and women, the problem is often the opposite: They feel uncomfortable going out on a limb and kissing their date or making a move to begin with.They will often scope others out for a while to figure out what makes everyone tick before letting their own guards down.When it comes to planning dates with someone new, shy people tend to be too passive.They often get stuck thinking too much about how the other person will receive the advance instead of simply taking the plunge and going for it.They sometimes don’t seek out their guy or girl for a second date – even when they’re still interested.Jonny is not the first Wonker who's up and fucking died on us. We have had letters from grieving husbands and brothers and kids, and we have grieved with them, when they let us know a faithful reader had gone. He was a terrible dancer who made the worst Dad Jokes EVER. He knew what he wanted, and he knew how to make his dreams into realities.