It’s very hard to move back once you’ve crossed a line—so don’t cross it in the first place.
This person may end up being a lifelong friend, or married to your best friend.
The intentional man repeatedly and constantly goes first and takes on all of the risk of rejection.
And beyond Biblical perspective, this advice also comes from experience, if I have to be honest when I was single and dating I broke every one of these rules in one way or another and it always cost me.Often times the phrase “follow your heart” really only means “follow your youthful lusts.” The Bible actually gives us some great insight into the heart, as we read in Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Better advice when dating someone would be, “listen to the counsel of others,” or “seek to be wise in your relationships.” These phrases aren’t as cool or as much fun as “follow your heart” but in the end they will lead you to much more joy and fulfillment. From the beginning of time men and women have tried to enter into some sort of dating relationship “casually.” Where the relationship “wasn’t so defined” or where “they were just going to take it day by day.” In the end, 100% of the time, these “casual dating configurations” leave somebody hurt, because one person is more committed to the relationship than the other.Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus, who..himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.” Be very careful about physical touch I would also encourage you to read through an article I’ve written that contains Guidelines for Sexual Purity.One of the things I say in several of my books is that what is right is always smart, and what is wrong is always stupid.That which is for God’s glory is also always for our good.It’s material that I’ve presented to many young people and their parents over several years.When my now married daughters were teenagers, I honed it further for sharing and discussion with them and the young men who asked to date them.When you begin a relationship, a rule of thumb is, don’t do anything physically you wouldn’t do with your sister by birth.If a Christ-centered and positive relationship develops, then you might move to cautious displays of affection such as hand-holding.