” Maybe that’s an overly-obvious question for a country where young men lock themselves in their bedrooms, eating instant noodles for a week, I don’t know.Anyway, people say lots of stuff, like alcohol’s a depressant, and I’m pretty sure that’s not true since the only time I’m depressed is when I open the fridge and there’s none of it. Whatever, once you get over the fact that you’ll know virtually nothing of substance about anybody close to you, Japan’ll start feeling pretty normal. Well, if you’re nutty enough to consider moving here, or possibly already have, let me break it down for you: 1. Hey, it’s hard enough to make friends in your own land, much less someone else’s. No matter how good your Japanese is, it’s tough to be more than a talking dog.One of the best places to meet a good man is to go where he is doing what he loves.For example, sign up for a book club, wine club, yoga class, outdoors adventure club, movie club, or join a church or spirituality group or political activism group. Go to conferences with common themes of interest to older people – AARP Life 50 events, for example.” She glanced around nervously, then her eyes fell in the direction of a thick slice under a fragile glass dome, shimmering in a ray of sunlight . If you are looking to develop a relationship with a man in your sixties, you have to know where to look.So, the secret is to do those things that you love, knowing that the men you will meet there at a minimum like doing what you do. Failing that direct approach, here are a few other ideas for finding these mysterious older men.
Most single guys are like you – they have a lot of different things in life to keep them busy, whether that’s work or family, grandkids, pets, hobbies or other interests. Don’t assume that you won’t have anything in common with men your age.Stop comparing your prospective dates to men who aren’t available, and instead start focusing on quality single, eligible men.The good news is, there are lots of single men over 60 who are just like single women – they are experiencing the same feelings and worries that we are – they might be recently divorced, feeling lonely, fearing rejection, feeling insecure, and trying to navigate the dating world again.So go do some traveling yourself, and you can meet them on trains and planes and at airports and train stations. I also recently had an interesting encounter in Paris that taught me some worthwhile lessons about senior dating – read the story here!I also met a close male friend on a plane – and we’ve kept in touch for 10 years.You already have a natural built-in network of dozens or hundreds of family and friends – and all of them know older men who you might not have met yet.Why not reach out to the people you like and trust, and let them know that you are looking to meet some new (older) men? You won’t meet them unless you ask friends for connections.“Remember that place I used to live, on the 5th floor?” If this was Emi’s way of asking if I could ever forget her tiny, damp apartment where we spent several nights a week cross-legged on the floor powering through tins of mackerel and cans of malt liquor, the answer would be a resounding . “That place was the best.” And of course by “the best,” she knows I mean “the worst.” “Well, I just found out my sister lives around the corner.Anyway, it’s no secret that Japanese people know basically jack shit about their own friends and family.So recently, a reader named Chika asked, “Why do people say Japan’s a lonely place?