Whereas people having online affairs tend to understate their problematic nature, their offline partners typically do not see difference between online and offline affairs: A lack of direct physical contact and face-to-face meetings does not diminish the sense of a violation of their vow of exclusivity.The fact that most of these affairs are concealed from offline spouses is indicative of the possible harm.And it’s really a fantasy to have an affair on a machine.It is not real.” “That aspect fantasy might be why so many married people get lured into affairs online when that was not their original intent.
But they may be so when participants are also involved in another primary offline relationship, because of the harm imposed on those partners.
These people believe that if they do not even know the real name of their cybermate—and never actually see them—their affair cannot be regarded as from a moral point of view; it's no different from reading a novel or other form of entertainment.
In other words, a way to play out fantasies in a safe environment.
In reality, though, the issue of online cheating is more complex—especially when it concerns sexual activities involving actual interaction with other individuals.
People, consciously or not, consider their online sexual relationships as real—they experience psychological states similar to those typically elicited by offline relationships.