Even if you already know the children, you shouldn't be showing up too soon. She was married and was actually pregnant with her third child when I "met" her.
(It's a small town, so we kind of knew each other, but not really.) I was extra, extra lucky because my boyfriend had a (mostly) good relationship with her.
It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. After running into him over a period of months, we began dating.The only books I could find were about step-parenting. Considering the divorce rate in this country, I thought finding the advice would be easy. *crickets* My relationship with this man continued for... But I did learn a LOT about the kiddos and how to deal with them.So here is my advice about dating people with kids.Make an effort to understand the relationship your man has with his grown children.Get to know more about the kids, such as whether they are in college, live at home with him, have kids of their own, if he gets together with them every Sunday and any other information you feel would be important to learn.This is not always the case, but that's another blog post.For now, my advice is to also play the waiting game with the ex -- take your time before you meet him or her. Realize you are taking someone else's child into your life.Take from it what you will: Wait Even though my boyfriend was eager to introduce me to his kiddo early on, we waited a long time before it actually happened.You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.When dating someone with children, even grown ones, face the fact that he has parental commitments, which may sometimes interfere with your plans and his availability.Dating a man with grown children will also require you to interact with the kids from time to time.