But society told me I had to be with one person at a time, with the goal of choosing one person forever. After a really great, long-term, successfully monogamous relationship ended, I was suddenly single in my late twenties and enjoying the freedom and the variety. Adam was fun and our chemistry was fantastic and rare, and though we kept it strictly physical, with those boundaries clearly defined throughout, spending time together was becoming the highlight.
It occurred to us that we could keep the excitement and variety, and still let ourselves fall in love with each other. And since then I’ve gotten a lot of questions about how we make it work and why we would even do that in the first place.
When I really stop to think about it, I know that there’s very little chance that he’s seeing anyone who is going to be better for him than I am.
We’ve removed the ownership that can come with a conventional relationship.
And of course, let each other know when we'll be seeing someone else.
Rule 4: We don't date friends or anyone that we know—including anyone we are friends with on social media.