This has proven to be essential for me when picking up women in Medellin. Socially, women are a little different than the southern California women I was used to picking up.
Imagine, our hands are on each other’s bodies before even knowing each other’s names.It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh.Medellin women are beautiful, and word is spreading pretty much around the world. I have been dating Colombian women for over 6 years now.When I first arrived here, there wasn’t yet a complete guide to dating paisa women.More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.D.) I started to read about this subject back in high school.It is not about being petulant or rude, it’s about being confident (comfortable in your own skin.) I meet women in Medellin by just living my life.Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.