On my first date with my wife, I schedule a one hour date at a diner.
Unless a good reason is give for not meeting, I would not ask more than three times – there are some people out there who are looking to make online friends or live fantasies out in their head without any intention of actually meeting.I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.Either way you approach it, they won’t mind if they are having a good time.If they you not break your plans you may want to evaluate how well the date is going!If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.Most people will accept this or make a joke in an attempt to fish for more information (“What, have another hot date after ours? You can come up with a reason you can only be out for a set amount of time but most people will not press very hard to find out why.I once talked to a woman for two months before we met.She was very nice and we got along well so I was willing to communicate but let her know I’d be talking to others while she gained comfort.