But if you do, don’t say something stupid like you’re already dating someone.
It’s not believable…that’s really your situation, then why are you on the dating site? When you're talking with someone from a dating site, on the phone, or in person, don't ramble on and on endlessly about yourself. If the main picture on someone’s profile is appealing to you, and you’re thinking of contacting this person, have the common sense to look at ALL of their pictures, and anything else on their profile that may be important to you, BEFORE you decide to send them a message. If you receive a call from someone you’ve given your number to, and you can’t talk to them at that time, then YOU should return the call. They took the initiative to make the call, and obviously didn’t know it was a bad time for you to speak, so YOU should have the decency to make the return call. If you're going to be bringing someone with you on the initial date, TELL THE PERSON YOU'RE GOING TO MEET BEFOREHAND.
You're taking matters into your own hands rather than waiting for someone to drift into your life.
And let's face it, as introverts, we're not all that excited about meeting new people out in the real world either. At least they can't corner you and talk your head off.
So don’t post pictures you don’t appear in on your profile. If you make a date and want to break it later, have the decency to call the person on the phone.
Again, have the decency to call them, and make the call when you know you’re not going to keep the date. If someone sends you a message on an internet dating site, and you’re NOT interested, DON’T reply.
Sending a reply will probably entice the person to keep sending you more messages.
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