And while you’re fooling around, giving your partner real time feedback about what you’re enjoying is a great way to encourage them to give you more of that thing, and also gives your sexual play the added edge of becoming more of a multi-sensory experience.
For a lot of people, it’s the details of dirty talk that make it so much of a turn on.
I prefer to call it erotic talk, but that is a subject for another day.)I’ll get into specific phrases you can use momentarily, but first, some guidelines to help you get your black belt from the dirty talk dojo.
A good rule of thumb with dirty talk is to tell your partner what you want to do to them/with them before you’re doing it, and then while you’re doing it, tell them what you’re liking about it.
Dirty talk can feel like walking through a minefield for a lot of people. Maybe something that you qualify as dirty talk is offensive, or laughable, or insane to your partner.
It’s an area of sex that makes a lot of people feel silly because they’re unsure of how to go about it without feeling ridiculous. This is the ultimate guide to dirty talk, walking you through the things to generally avoid, include, and steer clear of altogether in order for you to dominate the world of dirty talk.(For the record, I don’t believe in the phrase “dirty talk” since there is nothing dirty about sex or talking about sex.
And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
They want to have sex more often but it just doesn’t cross their mind all that often. Any statement about what you have liked doing with them, or that you are envisioning doing with them, is a great way to ease into a super-vocal sex session.
Want some soft/easy starters for your titillating texts?
Try out any of the following:– I’m really looking forward to seeing you tonight. – I’m having a really hard time focusing at work today…
– I love how you look at me when you’re turned on– You can have me any way you want me baby– Mmm…
I can tell that you’re having fun– Where do you want to cum?