She did go out with her friend to a bar for a drink one night.
Her friend went to the toilet and she fell asleep on the chair whilst she was gone – this is how tired she was.
to work extremely hard, potentially make yourself ill), then I couldn’t see it working between us – I said it over the phone as well. I totally regret dealing with it like this - and told her this after as well. It was definitely, the way she was wired - addicted to the drug of work.
When she came to see me next, she said she hadn’t talked to her manager about taking a step down, mainly because what I’d said to her. But I try to take off equal amounts of time for my family and friends. She even joked a few times 'I'm married to my job'.
and ii) She would see me more, but I would just want sex when she is tired.
I just calmly said that it wasn’t that I didn’t want to go out with someone who worked shifts (she worked shifts the first 6 months and it was no problem), I said it was the number of hours she was working.
Then the second half of the relationship she got another job at a much larger store further away with more responsibility and lots of stress.
I said that obviously sex should a compromise – we had been having a lot less sex anyway, because she was always exhausted.
Then over the next 3 months, she got more exhausted.
Sometimes she didn’t get home until 9.30pm and may have to be up at 5am the next morning for another shift working until 5pm that night.
For six months she really worked 6 days a week - 70-80 hour weeks.