2 minutes of reading time.(I just read the good parts)I'm seriously addicted to it.
Had potential, but he couldn't work with it (it was her idea). I wonder what percentage of guys are like me when it comes to this question? Having an openess that allows her to do as she will makes it okay when she does (she's being honest and not cheating -- there's no betrayal or deception involved), and can make it even sweeter when she don't. On top of that, when your woman is with another man who is better built, better hung, and (whatever other insecurity you may have) than you, and she still has a much better, more intense reaction to you, that can be a confidence and self-esteem booster like no other.
If you find yourself wanting to confide in one to the exclusion of the other, that's a good sign that it's time to choose. And flirting with more than one man at a time is a fast track to jealousy, envy, and all sorts of trouble and sin. Relate to them as brothers and friends, not lovers or husbands.
I am actually surprised this is the case, knowing what I do of myself. If you can get turned on sufficiently with just one partner in a one-to-one encounter then you are true to your orientation and don't need enhancement with fetish-like arrangements involving a third party. As if these were not benefit enough, engaging in this proves beyond all doubt that there is more to your relationship than sex -- if that were all it was, she would feel better with them.Over time, intelligent evolution led to the need of women for their men to be monogamous.It's a lot easier for a man to hunt for one woman and some offspring than for many.Women in ancient times had to survive while carrying the equivalent of a twenty pound bowling ball (a baby), which ruled out hunting.A suitable mate then was one who would stick aroud and take care of her.Would it be wise for me to date two people at once? This question comes frequently, both in a church setting like yours, as well as in the context of online dating sites.As nice as it is to have two men interested in you (especially as opposed to men), it quickly becomes complicated and is often marked by guilt and anxiety.When Steve and I were growing in friendship, along with a great group of other singles in our graduate school program, I knew it would be impossible to move forward in our relationship (past friendship) until, and unless, he considered what we had together apart from all the other possibilities. Relate to them that way, and you'll save yourself (and them) a lot of heartache and sorrow. Resist the temptation to race ahead of where you are in .He says it this way, "Like a good photographer who knows how to zoom-in on one detail, I had to choose to zoom-in on Candice — to the exclusion of all the other women in the room — in order to know what our potential was as a couple." Until he made that decision, even though our friendship was growing, it never could move past friendship because there were always other distractions. We're prone to anxiety over things that never happen. This is, I believe, the most practical point of advice.Marriage means saying "yes" to one man for life and "no" to all the rest.As you're finding, it complicates things to try and grow in friendship toward marriage with two men at one time.