Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.In fact, this is a great sign that the person on the other end of the conversation is truly interested and invested in learning more about who you are.Where the danger lies, however, is not their interest in you as a person, but rather that they don't offer any detailed, personal information about themselves in return, or doesn't really answer your emails in a personal manner but rather changes the topic with each contact.
The story varies somewhat with each internet dating scam, but the intention remains the same: robbing you of your hard-earned cash.Take heed of the following red flags and you'll be much more aware, prepared and ready should someone try and take advantage of you.Have you ever exchanged emails with someone you met through an internet dating site, just to wonder if its the same person who is replying to your messages each time?Appropriate responses are integral to determining whether or not the relationship you are creating is based on reality and not a potential internet dating scam.Could the person emailing you be merely copying and pasting responses from a pre-determined outline or script, or do their emails really seem to "get" you and offer some sort of individualized attention?Or perhaps you've briefly thought to yourself that the person on the other end of the communication really needs to employ a spell-checker.Neither of these email discrepancies is cause for alarm; a lot of people aren't very good at spelling and grammar, and they may be writing English as a second language.Don’t feel you have to sell yourself or introduce yourself too much – as we’ve said, they’ll definitely visit your profile and read about you there. Plus, the shorter your first email, the more intriguing you’ll be. You might say you’re busy and leading a fun, full life, but if you’re sending emails at 9.00 on a Saturday night, how busy can you be..?Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9.30 on a Monday morning, your reader might doubt your career ethic.This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.If your profile is half-finished, or Arctic in its brevity, or doesn’t include photos, most likely you won’t receive a reply.