' I’ve found that guys ask really smart, sensitive questions.
Women often ask, ' How did you deal when you lost your hair?
' But men go deeper: ' How should I talk to my sister who has breast cancer?
Jenny Saldaña, 45, an actress, comedian and Ford Model of Courage living in New York City; diagnosed 11 years ago"When I signed up for OKCupid, they asked, What’s the most private thing you’re willing to admit?My answers: Laundry is my favorite chore, and I’m a breast cancer survivor. The first guy I had sex with after cancer was a beautiful, tattooed philosopher. I’m glad they do, though; now I’m using them to find The One. I have bikini shots on my profile because I’m proud of my body: I want to show my “shark bite”—the scar on my belly from the reconstruction—and my ' Frankenboob,' which used to be higher than the other one but has fallen into place.I was coming out of a sh-tty six months—I’d been diagnosed as stage I, at age 34, and had a right-side mastectomy, chemo, and a new breast reconstructed using tissue from my belly. So when I met this man at a bar on a rare night out with a girlfriend, I was out of practice; my sexuality was asleep. Then he touched my new breast, which I could not and will not ever feel, and I started crying, angry, like, ' Don’t bother! ' He looked me in the eye and said, ' But you remember, right? ' Well, then, close your eyes and remember.' It was the most beautiful thing anyone could have said to me. Guys who read my profile say, ' Congratulations on your survivorship!A quick spell check doesn’t hurt either — not using are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies, proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.”Ok Cupid research agreed.Or do we actually have to read the person’s profile (I know! Then, they used a text analysis model to identify common phrases and words. The “sorry” could be from a message like, “Sorry it took me a while to get back to you…” So, no apologies! Here are some more things to avoid in your online convos: In another study, Hinge did a study of opening lines users would use.), think of something to comment on (preferably, in a clever way), then think of a question or two? Their copywriters and data analysts wrote up over 100 original openers (which varied in subject matter, structure, and length).' I tell them, ' Listen, I’m not going to let you feel me up on our first date, but there are no inappropriate questions.' I think it’s my calling to lift the misconceptions about breast cancer.I recently met a guy who made it to my ' A team,' meaning he could be a real contender.Our subconscious tells us that it’s rude not to answer a question so your chances are increased tenfold by just asking.”I agree. “As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel… How About We recommended the same thing in one of their Date Report articles.How many times do you get a message from someone, yet they ask you nothing? “Don’t start with ‘I think you’re very pretty,” said How About We's Chiara Atik.