Is it wrong for a couple to live together before they are married? Does God have one specific person for you to marry? Can/should a Christian who is a virgin marry someone who is not a virgin? What should I do if I cannot decide who I should be dating? Why is living together before marriage considered living in sin? How young is too young to be in a romantic relationship? Is it possible to love a person without liking that person? What are valid reasons for breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend? While internal benefits are things like adventure and challenge, which give them feelings from excitement to pleasure.And just like these two general motives, men also fall into one of two general categories: either providers or lovers.
Guys who talk about their past relationships reveal their views on women and their approach to relationships, which tells a woman EXACTLY how to seduce him into giving her the benefits she wants on her terms.
Women have two personal reasons for getting together with men: the external benefits and the internal benefits they receive. Really, it's the feelings underneath the benefits that women are ultimately after.
Ignore this single fact, and the dating world will eat you up alive and spit you out broke or heart-broken. External benefits are things like material possessions or opportunities that save women time and effort, which give them feelings ranging from security to luxury.
They're mostly there because of the external benefits they receive. But if you refuse to answer these first date questions, because you now understand the intentions underneath them, you communicate you're a lover.
Then women stay with you for the internal benefits you offer them, which not only means it's for who you are as a person — rather than for being a means to an end, like a provider — it's for the relationship itself.