I’m going to move across the country just because.” Long distance isn’t a chosen path, it is usually thrust upon you with the choices. And as hard as long distance is, it works just as long as both parties would rather be in a long-distance (albeit a crappy one, with scarce communication and trust issues) than broken up. Long distance relationships require even more trust than a regular relationships.
When you see each other several times a day, you is gone.
Two months after my future husband (but then-boyfriend) returned to Japan, I did what any love-struck college student would do.
For the next fourteen months, we did a long-distance relationship.
Another guy at school asked her on a date; she turned him down. She went back to the first guy (apparently she really liked him) – but he was with someone else now. However, you need to figure out when it is “worth it” and when it is not. If you are jealous or worried, you need to be able to tell them that. However, if you can’t trust/respect them enough to give it to them straight, why are you in a long distance relationship? I’m not talking about the mental cost, I’m talking about the simple monetary cost of a long distance relationship.You long-distance boyfriend or girlfriend won’t be able to hold your hand when you’re sick, hug you when you’re crying, or take you to the hospital after an accident. I need Ryosuke to be there physically – but he can’t.I’ve had friends who have done long distance for two years, then suddenly break up. But it keeps our long distance relationship going strong.But if you are reading this, you probably want to go ahead with your long-distance relationship.After all, no one actively decides “hey, seeing my significant other every day is overrated.One of them was in the wake of a family accident, another was when I got stranded at the train station with no money and no way to get back home, another was when my bike got sideswiped by a car. I called furiously, crying, and wasn’t able to reach him.And even when I was able to reach him, he could only comfort me with words. When you are in a relationship, you will need your significant other there when you fail a class, get in an accident, have a family crisis, or just a ‘normal’ mental breakdown.All relationships are hard – but long distance relationships have a whole other dimension to them.You need to learn how to productively argue via Skype without yelling over each other because jealousy, trust issues, insecurities, and not being able to see each other every day will lead to arguments (I mean, more arguments than a normal relationship).This gets hard when you go to a party, meet up with friends, or end up at a concert where an attractive brunette locks their hand in yours or pulls you in for a hug.You whole body is screaming out “FINALLY” while your mind is churning out in the background “But what about your boyfriend…? Do you have the willpower to purposefully make yourself miserable and craving – all in the name of love?