The site held a similar philosophy when it came to distance, and we employees would sometimes joke we needed to add a special filter for New Yorkers that let them specify,.At the time, I loved the concept of online dating and went out with other Manhattanites almost every weekend. I found myself always distracted, thinking more to myself about how to make a graceful exit than about whatever my date was saying.But then, what you say to a stranger you’d probably never meet?
But travel flings aside, I suspect most people don’t join dating apps intending to fall in love across continents, especially since it’s so easy to filter matches by distance.
But I had no plans to visit Austin and we lost touch.
A couple of weeks later, for work, I started combing through a data set of Ok Cupid “success stories”—blurbs that couples wrote in to let us know they’d found a soul mate or spouse through the site.
Maybe it was the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon—that effect where, when you first learn about something, you see it everywhere—but suddenly I learned that lots of people I knew had this same story.
One friend had just flown from New York to Israel to see a guy she’d first met on Tinder.