If there is one phrase I'm tired of men dropping, it's, “You're intimidating."Before I jump up on my soapbox and make myself even more "intimidating," let me write a disclaimer: This article is not intended for the woman you are too afraid to approach.I can't fix the mean girl who blows you off at the bar or the not-so-mean girl you just said has “resting bitch face (RBF).” (Also, I'm pretty sure my brain-on-fire-and-therefore-deep-in-thought face does not mean I'm a bitch, so please stop using “RBF").The world is full of “good catches” and natural born leaders. Please stop mistaking my not needing you for me not you.These people have a hard time settling down because they want to be pushed and challenged, but they don't think it can mutually exist with love. The fact that I have all that going on and still want to make you my priority person should speak volumes.She knows who she is and what she wants out of life. They command — never demand — attention, and they do it with mesmerizing grace and style. If you were a fly on the wall for our girls' nights, our one-on-one conversations, you would immediately lose all intimidation. The same girl you're too afraid to talk to starts each morning with a kitchen dance party.The same woman you find intimidating is also really good at making the same raunchy jokes as you are. She's clumsy and messy, can “man” a BBQ, yells at the TV for her team, enjoys downtime on the couch and eating junk food. Just her, the dog, a cup of coffee and the Top 40 getting down with her wet hair and makeup-free face.
Her trials, tribulations, successes, the way she expresses herself, captivates an audience, works a room, shows compassion, stands her ground or maybe even how she writes.
Do you feel better after getting this off your chest, as if we are in a first interview and you need to shake your nerves by being brutally honest?
Newsflash: This is not an interview and even if it were, you would never tell the person interviewing you that he or she is “intimidating."I'd rather you just tell me you're nervous because it's endearing.
Her story and character alone take the pressure off of you. Plus, if you're checking her out, you better believe others are as well. If you're constantly trying to better yourself and embrace a higher quality of life, keep reading.
The person who slightly intimidates you — because you admire her character, work ethic, strength, satire, step, drive, passion, etc.